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Theoretically, you've only got a minute or so to make a first impression on a woman. So how do you impress a hot babe, enough to either hook up later, or leave her wanting more than your digits? Here's what's up.
Theoretically, you've only got a minute or so to make a first impression on a woman. So how do you impress a hot babe, enough to either hook up later, or leave her wanting more than your digits? Here's what's up. Stay loose
 Above all that might happen, and is happening, you're having a good time, loving life, and she just happens to be there. You're only chatting her up because of location (which is why you're not asking much about work or school, and going with the deeper topics). She'll sense your relaxation, your sexiness, and a mysterious interest that's hard to pin down, and she'll open up. Keep the body language casual and comfy, and be playful.
Demonstrate social capital If you're in familiar territory, or with friends, it should be clear to her you're well-regarded. Your best bets are places where you're known, and if you're out of town, pop into the same hotel lounge or eateries your entire stay. Staff or regulars will speak to you, and establish a pleasing rapport. When asked personal questions, talk less about career and girlfriends, and more about people you helped move, find a job, get acclimated to a city, or get through a rough patch. A good transition into such a story is, 'That reminds me of when...'.
 Remember Her
While she's speaking, mentally remind yourself her name, if need be. Pay strict attention, that way you can revisit points in her stories, her tastes, or share a similar experience. File these things away not just for that night, but in the chance you'll see her again soon. This separates guys that are hitting on everyone from those who are really listening.
Dress For Success Few things capture immediate attention like a sporty look. Your gear should say playboy, not office drone. Find a flattering hairstyle, keep your fingernails neat, and work out every other day. Beautiful girls are selective, and you want to be on the eligible list. These principles will make you stand out and boost your confidence.
Lee Coles is a consultant on matters of dating. He's a been a columinst on the topic for Being Single, Essence, and Today's Black Woman . For personal consultation, DC area residents may contact Lee at smooth.talker@live.com, or visit him at Pulljoy (c). |
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